Tough Love Wraps, No Love Lasts
 Monday, May 11th, 2009 by Connie T.
VH1's new reality series Tough Love ended last week. Steven Ward and his mother JoAnn of the Philadelphia-based
"Master Matchmakers" wERE the show's host and matchmakeS, and put the female contestants through Tough Love
Boot camp, with the promise of finding them "true love" if they abide by his instructions.
These lessons included
understanding what men really think, not giving off red flags, and overall learning to be desirable to the male
point of view. In the end, although 5 of the 8 women made it to the end of the show, not one of them ended up in a lasting
relationship with the matches they were given.
Abiola Adams, labeled "Miss Picky," and her match Justin broke it off. As did Jody Green and
her match Shane, who looked to be the most promising of the couples. As did Jacklyn Watkins and Brock. The rest of them
never found suitable matches from the show.
Arian Mayer, who was kicked off the show by Steve and told that
she wasn't benefiting from the experience, took to her MySpace blog to explain a few behind-the-scenes tidbits.
"For the record," she
wrote, "I DID NOT KNOW IT WAS A BOOTCAMP GOING IN! I was told it was a fun matchmaking show...I was mislead and pissed about that
from day one. Then they send in Steve! The first thing he did was insult EVERY one of us before even getting to know us...He was NOT a nice person. He
wouldn't even make eye contact with ANY of the girls when cameras were off."
Aside from 28-year-old host Steve's questionable
qualifications to advise these women psychologically (which was certainly done, if you saw the series), the entire concept set our
teeth on edge. From what to wear, to what to say, to how to act, these women were told how to be worthy of a man's attention. Oh, it was
demeaning, alright. It's obvious that
the matchmakers involved do not take D. H. Lawrence to heart; and I quote: "The real trouble about women
is that they must always go on trying to adapt themselves to men's theories of women."
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